This is going to be really really really spiteful and bitchy like another poster said about her mother in law… hehehehehhe. But it’s no wonder you want to give your home made gifts! I get it now! lol
If your daughter and other’s family members are dim witted like me… and just brain dead (like me) then it’s likely that’s the cause rather than poor mothering, and or shoddy character of the recipient. But if not, and there are NOT extenuating circumstances like the package went awry… or the person LOVED the article and wore it and put it on their car seat so they COULD wear it again and someone else made it go on the car floor… or some other unforseen catastrophe… but that the person was JUST an ungrateful, mean, shallow, bitchy, cruel wretch… then shame on them for returning a kind deed with a cruel one. Ingratitude is worse than many things in this world not all of them… but a lot!
Give me your knitting, your unwanted and downtrodden. Send them to me… I may giggle at a colour but believe me if it will go over my head… or even sit on it at least I’ll wear it… oh and it must be able to go around the rest of me too preferably… but mayby not even that now that I’ve written such a passionate post. I’ll wear it no matter what! hehehheheh
Yes, that IS why that comment is on my signature. I also have that same bumper sticker on my car. It offended both my adult children terribly when I put that bumper sticker there, but oh well, that’s life. Damned if I do and damned if I don’t. Nice to know that someone finally understands!!! Thanks Nancy.
P.S. At least my knitting does not ignore me unless it needs something or ignore my signs of affection and think them unworthy. It is always there for me, always ready to be picked up, always does what I tell it to do, never talks back and is dependable and reliable.
Soooooooooooo which one of my kids DO you want? LMAO
Well since I have 3 angels… can I have the nice twin … you know NOT the evil twin? Got another angel under there somewhere?
And are you even going to talk to me on chat? ahahhahah Just kidding… nice way to get me out of there so you could save all those with questions on ‘how to’…
Oh by the by… you mentioned being well I don’t remember the word… handicapped? You ok? What’s happened?
Oh and I was totally brain dead about the beautiful job you did on that dress!!! Such a nice grandma not to steal such an angel away along with the dress! ahahhahahah Ok I won’t break up families. But honestly it’s a lovely lovely job on the dress… way to go… what a nice mommy you are, and such a nice grandma. I loved knitted things for my babies… I always thought they were in high end stuff, and ALL my stuff was second hand ahahahhahah. People really don’t get it. And with the knitted things I KNEW my babies were warm and would stay that way come sleet or snow. Oh and by the by too… what a very adorable granddaughter… you sure you didn’t make her too? hehehhe
It is so sad to hear how unappreciated such wonderful gifts are. My grandmother is getting on in years (the one who taught me to knit et do Hardanger embroidery) et has been asking what I want from her when she dies. As hard as it is to think of something like that, the things that I treasure the most are the beautiful garments et artwork that she has created with her skills. I have a couple of pieces that I have had framed et will pass on to my kids so they will learn to appreciate the skill that is rapidly disappearing because store-bought is cheaper et easier. Keep making these amazing gifts, but definitely find someone who will truely appreciate all that you have done for them!!
It is so sad to hear how unappreciated such wonderful gifts are. My grandmother is getting on in years (the one who taught me to knit et do Hardanger embroidery) et has been asking what I want from her when she dies. As hard as it is to think of something like that, the things that I treasure the most are the beautiful garments et artwork that she has created with her skills. I have a couple of pieces that I have had framed et will pass on to my kids so they will learn to appreciate the skill that is rapidly disappearing because store-bought is cheaper et easier. Keep making these amazing gifts, but definitely find someone who will truely appreciate all that you have done for them!!
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But surprisingly enough the person who was the most grateful of my knitted gifts is my Best friends 4 year old daughter Gloria. My best friend is about to have another baby. Gloria was happy about the new baby until Gloria found out that I am knitting the new baby a blanket and COMPLETELY FLIPPED OUT!! She was like NOOOO Auntie Christie makes ME knitted things because she LOVES me enough to work at my presents. Auntie Christie made my blanket so Auntie Christie needs to buy the baby a blanket. I actually had to get on the phone with her (long distance) to calm her down. and take a request for what would she like as well.
I was freakin stunned that a 4 year old somehow understood the time it took and the love that went into a handmade gift. Gloria put her foot down though and told me I could not put the baby’s name on the blanket like I did hers.[/QUOTE]
That is a beautiful story. Thank you so much for sharing it with all of us!
What a wonderful dress and on such a cutie! I have yet to get one picture of my grandkids in the sweaters I made them LAST year. What a great treasure you have in that snapshot!! :yay:
What a truly beautiful dress that is, I would LOVE to have something like that for my girls! My grandma, who taught me to knit, sent me so many beautiful sweaters and cardis for my daughters, and my girls loved them (as did I!) and wore them every chance they got. Now, sadly, my grandma has passed on, but the tiny sweaters and booties she sent me are in the keepsake boxes so that my girls can use them for their babies, if they have babies.
Thanks. Sadly, my daughter did not think so. Oh well, that’s life. Perhaps I got her from under a cabbage leaf, because she sure is NOT like me! She likes things bought from fancy stores for her children. She calls herself a “label whore” (whatever that means) and laughs when she says it, as if it won’t hurt then that she doesn’t want or like the pretty pink dress you made the baby.
“label whore” is the same thing as a brand name snob. when she buys the clothing, it’s more important to her what company made it (gap, old navy, etc) than what it costs and whether or not she can find it cheaper elsewhere. certain brand names give kids status in the schools… it implies that their parents are well off and well to do.
Whoa, what a lot of responses to this thread. It seems to have really hit a nerve. So far, I have only gifted things to my new niece (and her mom seems to love the blankets and sweaters I made) and to my own 21 year old daughter who thinks it’s amazing that I have embraced a new hobby! My closet is filled with more scarves and hats than I can wear, but I was always hesitant to give them away. Now I know why!!! And if it is any consolation, these ungrateful people in your lives probably don’t love store bought gifts either. Sometimes it helps to keep things less personal in the gift giving so that the receiving part isn’t so painful. Happy knitting everyone.:knitting:
that is SOOOO true. some people just can’t be grateful or happy, and nothing I do or try will change it. I just have to keep remembering that it isn’t about me…
But the best part about holiday seasons is the giving and the anticipation of how those gifts will be received (at least it is for me). Each gift, made with love and the happiness of knowing you can create something for someone you love, is a part of you. These people just don’t understand that because they have no inclination to learn a skill like this, so have no idea how it feels to put your heart and soul into a project. Oh well, life goes on…
If you think you are in shock Jan, you should see how I felt when I found it hidden in the bottom of a box still in it’s original wrapping and the plastic bag I had lovingly sealed it in. There IS not explaining some people, even ones you thought you knew inside out and backwards.
I moved on. I knit on. I learned to harden my heart (but never ever against my grandchildren).
Whether they appreciate it or not, I don’t really care., because I had fun doing it!
Absolutely right! I consider the gift for the giver, not the receiver. We take a lot of care to make sure what we buy or make is something they will like, but if it’s not that’s OK, we did what we could. I made a crocheted sweater for my mother, who was still smoking, found it with a burn hole. It was so beautiful, after that I decided I just couldn’t care. Happily, most of my friends and family would rather have something handcrafted rather than bought. Love my family!
The.Knitter - I CANNOT believe that beautiful dress just sat inside a closet. What a boorish person that mom must be.
Funny how these things can fester.
Having said out loud (well typed) ages back in this very long thread that I was being really selfish and just knitting for me - I immediately regretted it. Low and behold - I found myself in a not so LYS this weekend and have now got a few projects lining up for Christmas gifts. And its nearly the middle of November. I foresee more late nights ahead. Plus agreed to knit an ipod cover for someone at work’s boyfriend today… must be something in the air…maybe its time to put the ghosts of Christmas past (gifts) behind and move on. Apart of course for the lady with the dress still in its box… shame on them!
the more i think about the dress the more i want to cry. I would hope that either I had the ability to make such a gorgeous item (should we ever have a daughter) so that she could wear it home from the hospital and for her first pictures! THEN go and have it preserved in a box so she could use it for HER babies.
