Hello
It think you forgot to put the neck shaping in the front?
I have been in the position of not liking neckbands so many times that I now just accept I’ll probably make the neck 3 times - and it is always, always, worth it. The difference of a good fitting, comfortable neckband is enormous.
For me I have decided the best option is to either put a life line in on the live neck stitches and not remove it until the top is totally finished (that way I can rip out the neck knowing the life line will save the stitches) or instead to bind off any stitches which should be left live so that when I rip out the neckband all the rest of the top is safe and I can focus just on getting the neck band right.
What was it about knitting the neck which made it like you were doing astrophysics? It doesn’t sound like an enjoyable process, unless you’re an astrophysicist! Did you knit the neckband in the round? Was it a fight with the needles?
I notice on the pattern it calls for the neckband to be knit flat, one seam is closed, the other open, and seamed afterwards - I much prefer to make necks this way . I’ve tried necks in the round and it’s just not an enjoyable experience for me, at all, like I would be ready to give up knitting for good if I had to do that again (although I am aware many people love knitting in the round). Now when a pattern calls for a neckband in the round I alter the pattern so I can make it flat and seam it.
Having a deadline, like Xmas, to work to is added pressure too. Is it possible to delay? Create an IOU by wrapping a chocolate bar with one of the yarn bands with a message on it, “IOU one sweater, hand made with love”.
It’s a lovely top and will be well worth getting the neck right.