It makes me sick. At the mall on Saturday, some 9 year old little girls were dressed very provocatively…they were in costume for trick or treating.
Apparently, a girl can no longer go as a nurse or a police woman or nursery rhyme character.
One has no option but to be a “naughty nurse” or a “naughty police woman” or a “naughty goldilocks”.:ick:
These girls…who were young enough not to need, ahem, supportive undergarments, were wearing what amounted to lingerie with their dark makeup and heels. One girl was dressed as a “naughty pirate”…mini dress, fishnet stockings, heels and an eye patch. Her friend was an army girl…although how she was going to go into comabat in her mini dress, high heeled boots and fishnets, I just don’t know. There were about 6 in the group…all dressed in the same fashion.
Then…I saw pictures of girls from our church youth group…dressed as naughty characters for the monster bash at school. YUCK. If I wanted to see their bottoms…well, I [B]don’t [/B]ever want to see their bottoms:wink: .
Where are the PARENTS? My 4 year old isn’t even allowed to wear a two piece bathing suit because “daddy’s girls don’t show their bellies”. I know these parents…they are basically good, loving, involved parents. Why on earth would they let their teen daughters dress up in lingerie to go to a dance where there will be HORMONAL teen boys? I work with teen boys…I know EXACTLY what is going on in their little brains.
I think I am going to put on my sweats, grab a bag of reese’s peanut butter cups and hide my head until halloween is over this year.
I totally agree with you!!! For some reason, in all the halloween catalogs, costumes for any girl older than 5 is “naughty”. I’ve seen those exact costume you are describing in the catalogs. I’m not sure how these girls convinced their parents to buy them?!! my girl will be wonder woman- but the costume with a SKIRT, no pretend cleavage, and long sleeves. (she is only 5 so I could find something cute!)
I agree with you … its amazing that people think its ok on Halloween. Although this past weekend I was out to dinner and a couple came in with their little girl, I’m going to say in the 7-9 year range, she was all dressed up, very cute shirt, pants, pearls and HIGH HEELS! I was shocked, she could walk in them pretty good too … which means this is a common practice for her. I was floored.
I really thought people had better sense than that. I mean… she was such a pretty LITTLE girl, why rush into grown up clothes??
I’m not a parent, but couldn’t agree more. I was always a clown, a baby, karate kid, little red riding hood, goldilocks or something along those lines.
Problem is the dress code in general is getting more and more skanky for young girls. Working in the chidren’s hosp I am always amazed by the cleavage showing shirts, and ultra low rise jeans that leave nothing to the imagination - belly’s and thongs hang out for all the world to see. I particularly love when parents say something like “they made me buy that - I really don’t approve.” HELLLLOOO how does a child MAKE you do anything.
I came home with a second piercing in my ear and a bikini while in college and my father handed me a t-shirt and a lecture.
This is a conversation I have had with several people over the last week or so, although it involved women in their twenties. I have found more and more young women buying their costumes at stag shops (NOT KIDDING!). Now, if I wanted to buy something cute to wear IN THE BEDROOM for my BF, then I would go there, but the intention of these outfits is to wear them during private time, not out in public. This is just another symptom of what is wrong with society. I don’t understand why people think it is okay to dress like this. Halloween has become “dress up slutty” day for women, and I think it’s wrong. It’s completely unfeminist and sexist and it’s making women out to be sex objects. Haven’t women been fighting for years to be seen as equals? What for? Clearly there are women who don’t want to be. This really makes me angry, and now hearing that young girls are on to the trend too… I just don’t know what to think. I guess some people write it off as being fun and once a year, well I don’t think that’s true. It’s just a demonstration of what we’re teaching the new generations. I’m only 21, but I think that this is true of many women my age, as well as younger and older. I think this generation has no idea what it’s like to not be equal to men and instead of rejoicing in our equality, we’re wallowing in sluttiness. I think there needs to be a revolution. I don’t want any daughter of mine growing up in a world where it’s okay to treat women that way.
I couldn’t agree with you more. I am tired of hearing intelligent (and okay, not so intelligent women) say that they are just “owning their sexuality”. No…they are giving it away to any guy who is going to use it later during his own “private” time. And while I am sure they aren’t too upset about the idea of the cute young guy next door fantasizing about them…I wonder how they would feel about the old, morbidly obese guy who smells weird and stood behind them in the line at the grocery store?
Whatever happened to a little mystery?
As for the little girls in the skanky outfits…I can’t help thinking that pedophiles must LOVE this time of year.:twisted:
I agree completely. I have to say, though, that it has gone way beyond halloween… I was looking for Christmas dresses for my TODDLER girls this weekend, and most of what I found looked like prom dresses… guaranteed to get them laid after the prom! I do NOT want to dress my 3 and 5 yo girls like that…
You know, it’s either that or the ultra gross/scary, which I don’t believe in. I loved when my children were in preschool (Christian, of course), and they called it, “Let’s Pretend Day.” The kids dressed up as football players, doctors, or farmers.
I’ll stop now before I really get on my soapbox, except that it shows that these people have no imagination. If they want to follow the crowd rather than using their imagination to create a truly clean, spectacular, original costume…oh well. I tell kids, when I hear them curse, that smart kids show how smart they are when they use words that have more than four letters. Same principle.
I’m a probably the most laid back person you will ever know but I have not participated in Halloween for about 8 years now because of the increase in smut and gore.
The kids costumes are either hideously gross or like others have said totally innappropriate for young children. I’m also sick of seeing adults dressed as sexual toys or hookers for the sake of airing their private fantasies in public.
I guess I’m the poop of the neighborhood but I don’t participate at all anymore. I’m also sick of all the horror crap on tv the two weeks before Halloween too. I have no need to watch any movie that perpetuates some of the real life horrors I read about in the news.
My husband questioned me the other night and asked why all of our neighbors decorate for Halloween but not the holidays. I didn’t have an answer. We have an Autumn Greetings wreath on our door and a ceramic pumpkin on our porch. The rest of our neighbors look like they went to a horror movie set and bought everything.
All these kids trick or treating on halloween in revealing clothes should come up here… they would be so cold it would probably teach them a lesson. :teehee: When I was a little girl I was living fairly far north. Our costumes needed to include a toque, mittens, boots, wool socks and a winter coat! :roflhard:
I think many women don’t understand that there is a way to “own your sexuality” and still be appropriate. You can be sexy in a sophisticated way, without looking like a porn star. And of course there is a place and time to dress sexy. At school, or at work, it is NOT the place! So if grown up women can’t understand this, how can they teach their daughters?
I saw on tv a very frightening documentary on little girls and sexuality. They went in a store selling clothes for girls under 12. This store was selling all kinds of very revealing clothes, including lacy thongs and leopard-patterned bras (a bra for a 7 year old girl??? Come on!). I couldn’t believe my eyes! :shock:
My daughter has been taking dance classes since she was 3. (She’s almost 10 now.) She started out at 3 in jazz, and it was cute. Then we added ballet, and she did ballet and jazz for a few years. Again, no concerns. One year she decided to take hip-hop as well, and her ballet class went to competition. I have never seen so many young girls dressed sooooooo scantily and doing dance moves that were VERY suggestive. My daughter now goes to a dance school where only ballet is taught - with tasteful jazz added for the older girls. I know the original post was about Halloween costumes, but these dance studios are doing the same thing to our girls and starting it out at a [B]very[/B] young age.
I really do think it’s due to society in general. I am a child of the 70’s and 80’s. We would not have dared wear lingerie as regular clothing. I remember being embarrased when my bra came undone during a basketball game. You couldn’t even see it, but the knowledge that things were free and easy was enough to make me cross my arms in sheer panic (not that I had much to worry about).
[COLOR=black] I completely agree with all of you. I’m not sure when Halloween became an excuse for girls to dress like, um, hookers. I don’t really think I saw that until I went to college and all of the girls were wearing pretty much nothing for Halloween (and I went to a conservative Catholic college!!). I went to a costume shop this weekend looking for something for a Halloween party on Saturday. I wouldn’t mind being a nurse, fairy, boxer, police woman, or pirate, but I don’t want to be a slutty nurse, a slutty fairy, etc. There were young girls no more than 10 holding costumes I wouldn’t ever consider wearing! :noway: I wanted to say please please don’t wear that. Its ridiculous. [/COLOR]
Amen, sister! I’ve noticed this over the past few Halloweens just looking at the costumes in Target - the disparity in costume types between girls and boys is alarming and annoying. And yeah, don’t get me started on costumes for women. :-x What, we can’t be anything without being a sex object?
As the mommy of two young girls, I can already say that it’s becoming a challenge to dress them as little girls. My oldest is getting out of toddler sizes and into the next step, and it’s frightening what they have in a size 5. :sad:
It’s really hard for me to understand this phenomenon. As I said, I am actually a part of the generation that started this, but I still don’t get it. What happened? I’m going to dress my little girls like little girls and help introduce them to feminism and standing up for themselves and strong female figures! I think we should start a revolution.
This is exactly why I make most of my kids’ costumes. My almost 7yo dd is going to be a fairy princess - with a long dress with long sleeves. My 4 yo dd is a pumpkin, and my teenager dd is probably just staying home this year to pass out the candy.
No need to apologize for being on your soapbox. More people should do it. Maybe little girls want to dress like hookers because older girls and women do it all the time. What ever happened to modesty? If people complained about dance studios teaching suggestive moves, perhapes more places would cater to basic dance classes. I could go on, but you get the idea. :wall:
[B]Candicane [/B]- your little trick or treater is so cute! I was wishing my kids were small enough to wear the cute animal suits I saw at Walmart.
[B]Mommy22alyns [/B]- I hear you on the girls cloths. I often wish my daughter was small enough for toddler sizes still and she is now in jrs which is 100X worse than girls!
My daughter this year is dressing up as a 50’s girl with the poodle skirt and button down shirt to match. My mom made it and it’s super cute. My son is a ninja, but it’s not a scary one. They dress up and we go to the churches in town that have things and then come home.
