Congrats!!! Here’s to a happy and healthy 9 months!! (And lots of knitting to do!)
I’m sorry about your co-worker. That would annoy me too, especially the part about your boss. Its hard enough to tell your boss you’re going to need a bunch of time off, its even worse when he/she hears it from someone else. Just make sure he or she knows why you didn’t tell him directly (waiting until the end of the first trimester is perfectly legitimate, I’ve done it twice now), and don’t share any more intimate information with this co-worker.
Telling your BOSS before you had the chance to tell him/her is, I think, totally unacceptable. Yes words can slip out sometimes, but if everybody knew already, it means she deliberately told everyone. Maybe it wasn’t clear in her mind that it was a secret, maybe it’s an honest mistake. But she has to understand that what she did could lead to serious consequences!
That being said, I’d be mad too. Don’t let this women take away any of the joy and happiness that you have though. At least you still have all of your family and out of work friends that you can personally share with (hopefully she can’t ruin that).
I would be upset too… but I’m wondering if she didn’t do this on purpose ya know?? which then I wouldn’t want to give her the satisfaction that she got me… I’d prolly say something but pick my words wisely…and go on with out a care in the world… I have trust issues though and maybe she didn’t mean that but is just a big mouth :roflhard:
Congratulations!
I’d be angry about that too. But I also wouldn’t want to let her know that, like dustinac said, about giving her the satisfaction. I’d probably just say something like, “Well, I guess I can’t trust you now,” in a slightly sarcastic offhanded way, shrug my shoulders, and walk away. No long drawn out conversations, etc. Why bother? You’ve got some “baby” knitting to do!
Congratulations!!!
I’m sorry you weren’t able to tell the people at work your wonderful news, but at least you got to tell us and you get to tell all the other people in your life!
Congratulations to you. :cheering: Sounds like she is the kind that cannot be trusted to keep a secret. I wouldn’t let it ruin working with her but I’d not tell her anything again that I didn’t want everyone else to know.
I had a friend like that. After she broke a confidence for the second time I moved on from that friendship. I don’t miss her. My only sister is the same way. I have to have a relationship with her but I only tell her things that I do NOT care if everyone else around her finds out. And she wonders why we are not “close”. :wall:
Congratulations I hope your pregnancy is healthy It’s a shame about your co-worker. I don’t know her so I can’t comment on her intentions but I’d definitely be more wary of her in the future.
Second, I would be furious. More than furious I would probably tell everyone at work “woah you know? Wow if you want a secret kept make sure you don’t ever tell whatshername”
When I got engaged, I was 22. I was looking forward to saying to people “hey we got engaged” and showing the ring with a nice big grin - my fiance told everyone before I even had a chance to. I was pretty mad - he totally took away the joy of telling people together As it turns out I never married the guy - he was a jerk in more ways than can be re-counted here but it was a lucky escape :teehee:
I would be really really mad at my co-worker, I’d let her know it too and I’d make sure everyone knew never to share a secret with her again.
So, the very next day I very calmly spoke with my co-worker. I told her I had heard that she told all of the day shift employees. She said, “No I didn’t!” I reminded her that in every conversation I told her not to tell anyone because we wanted to make sure everything was going good. I told her that if God forbid, we lose the pregnancy, then I now have everyone at work knowing what I’m going through and I can’t do this somewhat private. I told her all along I wasn’t sure when I would break the news and that I only told her because she’s pregnant too. I also told her her that the #1 thing I was upset about was that my boss congratulated me before I was ready to tell him. He did that while he was with a long-time gossip sitting right near him so I didn’t get a chance to really say anything to him about what happened.
What did she do? She kept snapping that she didn’t tell anyone and said that one of the employees ‘just knew’ :noway: and said he kept hounding her for info. on my days off. I find that hard to believe. That person is a guy and he’s not a really good friend of mine. We get along fine but we just work different shifts. I work with mostly all men and trust me, these guys don’t really care. I’ve been working there for 12 yrs., I’m 36 yrs. old so the thought that someone just “guessed” that I’m pregnant when I was only about 6 weeks pregnant is kind of off the wall if you ask me. I told her how hurt I was becuase I thought I could trust her. She started snapping that the “day shift” people always get her in trouble and she can’t believe they put her in the middle of this. She’s 32 yrs. old so I really feel that you need to take responsibility of your actions at that age, that’s for sure.
I’m over this now, but the thing that really frosted my behind was that she did not appologize and now she’s not even talking to me. She had the nerve to say, “Lisa, I’m really sorry they did that to you, that wasn’t right.” :noway: I said, “That they did this to me??? You’re the only person I told, how is this their fault?” So like most the posters said, I’ll never tell anyone at work anything personal. Lesson learned. I don’t want to carry around any hate with me, this is really over now. I honestly thought most people on this board gave me excellent advice. On the positive side, if this is the only negative thing that happens to me during the pregnancy, then I’m very lucky.
Thanks to all the other day for your supportive thoughts!
It is unfortunate that this happened. But I hope for your sake and that of the baby you can let go of all the negative feelings an d move on. This is a HAPPY WONDERFUL time for you and only thing you should be feeling right now is JOY.
I very much believe that babies in utero are very tuned in to our feelings and you don’t want your baby to be feeling the anger and stress created by this situation.
People, being what they are-human, are going to always dissappoint and frustrate you. Focus now on this wonderful experience and let the rest go.
Congratulations!!! I am so sorry she is being such a b@#$&%!
Hopefully that is the worst thing that happens for you in this pregnancy! I hope you have a very healthy and uneventful pregnancy.
And again congrats!!!
OOOHHH a baby… How wonderful. I wish you, your hubby and ‘bump’ all the best wishes in the world. You most so exicited!! I’m sorry it started badly with that person, (couldn’t bring myself to call her a ‘lady’). I can’t believe someone would be that mean. Especially seeing as she was expecting herself so you would have thought she’d have understood a bit more. You’re better off not being around such people.
Second: Yes you should be pissed, I’d be. I hate it when people do that.:grrr: :!!!: You shouldn’t even have to ask her not to tell anyone. It’s your business and you should be the one to choose who to tell and when, not her.
Well at least you know how much you can trust that person to keep your confidences.
This may sound strange but I just went out and bought a huge skein of 100% cotton from Bernat. The color I bought is pretty pastels. It’s got white, pink, lavendar, mint green, yellow, blue and it’s so pretty for babies. :happydance: I’m going to make a bunch of little baby wash cloths. :cheering: I’ve been working on some sweaters and what not but these will go by nice and quick when I’m really not dying to make a whole big project.
Oh my, I just found this pattern on their site! Now I’m going to be looking forward to making a little bib! Has anyone made these yet? They look perfect.
