My MIL is driving me Crazy. Her past antics have included telling me that I have a fat a–, smoking in my car (even though I am allergic to cigarette smoke), not attending our wedding, ignoring our anniversary & my birthday, purchasing a house with another realtor (even though I showed her tons of homes, gave her the mtg and closing atty info, etc), and the list goes on… she continues to scheme against me and try to make my life miserable. I try to be the “bigger man” while she takes a blow torch to the proverbial olive branch… and well let’s say this has caused my marriage a boatload of stress for no reason.
I am just at a loss for what to do in this particular situation…
SO, here goes-I am a real estate agent and although she chose not to work with me when she bought her last property (for reasons that are still unknown to me) On June first, she contacted me and asked me to represent her in a new transaction. I told her that I would need to think about it and that I would call her back. The reasons were two fold- 1. I really wasnt sure I wanted to work with her- and wanted to talk it through with my DH- the last experience caused the entire family not to speak for almost 6 mos. and 2- I was in the process of interviewing w/ a builder and therefore would no longer be able to help her if I was offered a job w/ the builder. Which I was heavily considering and had actually made it to the offer stage. I felt it was important to make this part of my decision to work w/her since the proposed new job would start Jul 1.
SOOOOO…after careful thought, we (DH & I) decided why not? I’m on commission and every transaction helps. If she can close on the new property by the end of the month- GREAT. If not, I’ll figure it out.
So, I agreed to represent her. I called her back and told her I would be happy to help - BUT - she needed to move quick - B/C I was expecting an offer from the builder and if she REALLY wanted to work w/ me we would have to close the deal by the end of the month as I would start working with the builder Jul 1.
Fast forward to this morning…I showed her an investment property last night. She called my in house mtg person to get pre approval and told him that the deal would need to be closed by June 30. Which he said wasnt a problem and she said - Oh- well that’s good because I want to make sure my DIL gets paid because she’s resigning on June 30…and by the way, that’s confidential.
Well- Guess what!!! My mtg person, broker & I all work in the SAME office. My mtg person spoke with my broker and upon arrival in the office this morning, my broker called me in to find out what was going on. He said- your MIL told the mtg person you were leaving…what exactly is going on? This was awkward to say the least. My broker is known for packing “unhappy people’s belongings” and leaving them in front of the office to be picked up later. So after explaining that YES, I did interview w/ the builder because I was recruited after selling one of their homes, and that I had considered the opportunity, I was not planning on leaving. He could have told me to leave- no questions asked- and this could have cost me & my family a LOT of $$$$ as I had closings today, another next week & another deal I was negotiating. Her “revelation” could have cost us a LOT. Not to mention, my credibility is ZERO w/ my boss now because of her antics.
My question is this…
- Can I poke her eyes out w/dpn’s or circulars?(just kidding)
- What on earth am I to do?
Clearly this woman does not like me. otherwise she wouldnt treat me the way she does. And this is seriously the icing on the cake. If I never see her or have contact with her again, it will be too soon.
Sunday is Father’s Day and we were supposed to take DH’s step dad & her out for a nice dinner. I don’t even want to see her let alone interact with her. Do I thank her for potentially nuking my career & torpedoing my credibility? Or do I politely smile through the meal and then NEVER EVER speak to her again?
I feel like if I confront her, she wins.
I feel like if I ignore it, she’ll find something else to complain about.
I feel like if I represent her in the “transaction” that she’ll find a way to sue me and cost me my license…
Any ideas or thoughts from my fellow knitters ?? :??