She may just be avoiding everyone who doesn’t take her view of things at the moment, feeling a little on the defensive in the midst of a life-changing decision. I expect that she is just starting to realize the impact her choices have on the people who love her, and needs down time to come to terms with that. I wouldn’t take it personally Cristy, unless she calls you out and makes it personal.
Meantime, put all your best wishes for her happiness into those socks. 
hugs
I’m sorry to read about what your friend and you are going through… she might just need some time alone and when she is ready to talk she knows you will be there to listen… I think knitting her socks is a wonderful idea if you drop them in the mail to her with a little note it will remind her what a wonderful friend you are and that you care…
Nicole I think the prayer shawl is a great idea!! 
she responded to my email:
Hey,
I’m at school right now so I can’t talk–I’m about to go to class. I’m not angry with you, and I’ve never intentionally lied to anyone–perhaps worst and most importantly, I’ve been lying to myself for these past five years. You get caught up enough in something that you don’t know which end is up–I’ve been so confused and just stupid about everything for so long that I don’t know how to make things right anymore. I just want a clean break from everything around me that I’ve ruined. I don’t know how to describe it better than that, but it is what it is and I hate myself and everything around me right now (not people, just my situation). I don’t know what to do and I don’t know the answers.
I’m sorry I haven’t called you back–I really don’t feel like talking to anyone right now. I do love you very much and am not trying to avoid you to hurt you or anything–everyone is just so mad at me right now that no one has anything all that kind to say. I’m not saying I don’t understand, but I’m not a punching bag either, so I’m mostly afraid to talk to anyone right now. I’m sorry if you feel betrayed–if it’s any consolation, I’ve been betraying myself for years. I just can’t do it anymore.
I’ll call you on my way home from school–I have to do that Hands of Hope thing. I hope you have a good day.
H
I think things will be okay…I hate to hear her so down…
nods yep… I know how she feels. I felt the same way when I split with my fiance. To everyone outside we were the perfect couple, but inside it was just all wrong, and I had no confidence left to do anything about it. I just figured if everyone else believed in us then it must be ok and that things will turn out ok in the end. They just didn’t and after 7 1/2 years I finally left him. I know that many people involved were angry and upset, including my parents who felt I had just been stringing him along for all those years. It wasn’t like that at all, but thats how others saw it.
She is going to love the socks you make her 
In a sea of dispair they will be a beacon of brightness and a token of kindness she sounds like she richly deserves right now.
hugs Cristy, hang in there for her
just love her. its all you can do.
I don’t know about a beacon of brightness…they’re gray…LOL.
She wears a lot of black and gray–probably left over from retail days when that was her uniform so I thought the gray socks would be useful…
It’s hard b/c I’m close to her dh too and it’s hard to see him hurting. I’m just glad she’s at least responding to my emails…
bah! BAH! There was me imagining stripes and they are grey! Well grey is her colour, it isn’t black - its brighter than black, so yes, they will be a beacon of brightness giggle (thats some typical Mully logic there for you =P)
It’s hard b/c I’m close to her dh too and it’s hard to see him hurting. I’m just glad she’s at least responding to my emails…
I really did have this problem with my split too, “our” friends were close to him too. I lost a LOT of friends over it, it was probably one of the hardest choices I’ve made in my life. Try to remain objective for them both, and remember there are 3 sides to every story; hers, his and the truth. I don’t envy you at all, its going to be difficult for you as well as for them both =(
hugs now you need a knitter to make you something nice too =D
Yea…that’d be nice…LOL. At least they are gray lacey socks…
I am staying objective…it’s kind of weird b/c I didn’t like him when they started dating…well…I didn’t not like him…I just didn’t like him much…I guess he’s grown on me over the years…he was shy and I think I took that as stuck up…
Thanks Mulene…you’ve been a big help!
It’s saved more marriages than you can shake a stick at. I know two couples who were already divorced when they attended just so they could deal with each other about the kids and ended up remarrying.
Edited to add The most common thing I hear from couples who attended and spent six months applying what they were taught: “I have the marriage I always dreamed of.” And these are folks who were dealing with adultery, addictions, alienation, etc.