sunshine, i appreciate your comments. I never said i wanted a newer car though, i clearly stated an older honda(reliable, not necessarily uber cool) would make me perfectly happy. And reliebility is sometimes an issue with the vibe, but i deal with that as it happens.
and i CANT afford a car loan because im up to my neck in student loans!!!
truble, you dont know me so please dont judge me.
i payed for half of my first car, i payed all my gas and car insurance too, and still do (only part of the insurance now because it went up )
and i am completely offended that you would compare me to paris hilton. I said my parents owe me, i didnt say i have to have everything i want. So if your 17 year old cant make payment on his rent one month you will abandon him and let his credit get tarnished and eviction threats? my parents would step in and help, that is what i mean when i say “owe”
Princess, doing all of this in addition to school and work is amazingly wonderful and you should be proud of yourself. Your selflessness is inspiring. But, it makes one wonder why you care about a car? Do you understand? You, more than a lot of people, see what not having much really means. That’s why it’s confusing as to why you feel it’s so necessary to feel comfortable in your car. I understand the break-in period with a new car, but not the “feeling that’s it not mine” sort of thing. I am sincerely not trying to be rude or to upset you. I don’t think anyone is. But you did post this thread and we’re just giving opinions not critiques on you personally. We get that your disappointed, but we can’t figure out what you were hoping for instead.
If the car is not reliable that is a completely different issue and one I’m sure you can discuss with your folks. Maybe thank them immensely (sp?) than bring up the issues with it and ask them to help you figure out a plan to get something else. Don’t keep it inside - they’d want to know.
I am sorry you’re offended. The second half of this comment of yours, though, is completely twisting what I said.
If you want to go back and define what you mean by “owe,” that’s entirely your privilege. I took the word at its usual definition.
You’re 19. Give yourself a few years, a few kids, a few job disappointments, a few extra bills that you didn’t ask for, a few new friends, maybe even a few husbands and you’ll soon understand that having a blinging car isn’t what makes your life happy. Right now it seems like a big thing, life will show you it isn’t. Alot of us wish the only thing we had to worry about right now was whether our cars were cool. Some of us have health issues, kid issues, financial issues, parent issues (elderly parents), death of spouse issues, loss of home issues, I could go on and on.
You can’t be to blame, you are young.
I don’t think you should be sorry for posting, i think you got some different opinions about the matter. You can’t always expect a pat on the back from everyone, life is more complicated than that, IMHO. There have been a few controversial threads about issues far more complicated and everyone expressed their opinions, as long as it wasn’t offensive. I never suggested you are a spoiled brat, i just pointed out that this car is a great gift that you should appreciate. Obviously, you’re a hard working person that definitely knows what money is. You can’t always rely on your parents for help, because they’re your parents. My parents can’t afford themselves many things and i will never ask for help. I argue with my mother how much will she put into my birthday present :teehee:. Sometimes written posts sound differently than the writer meant, that’s why i tried to re-read my posts, but i see you got offended anyway. I’m sorry you feel this way. This forum has helped me on many different occasions with good advice and a friendly shoulder and i think you shouldn’t be afraid to post, but always re-read your posts, just to make sure you’ve written what you meant in the clearest way you could.
My first car which my mom did supply was a 1979 station wagon ( i started driving it in 1992) with a tailgate. That’s right like a pick up truck. I swear you could fit at least 8 of my closest friends in that thing, it was cream color and it was my grandmothers before it became a second car for my family. You could only put 1/4 tank of gas in it because otherwise the tank would leak and the speedometer did not work, you guessed how fast you were going. But all in all it was a way to get from point A to point B. Not a great looking vehicle by any means but it still meant some freedom. I know how you feel but eventually you will be able to drive the one car that you want and feel cool again but for now this is it and just be thankful it’s not from 1979 with a tailgate. LOL.
third, i still see it as “moms” car. As a hand me down i dont think i will ever be able to call it mine. Its just always been “her” car and i will always see it that way, and i want it to feel like "mine"
I know im being spoiled, and ungrateful its just that im super disappointed by the whole mess. I was so excited to inherit it, and now its a mess of problems and just hasnt settled with me very well :/[/quote]
So above is part of your original post where you say that the car will never feel like it is yours b/c it was your moms…well, if you sell the Vibe to buy another used car, how is that anymore yours? It was someone elses first, maybe even 3 other peoples first. Also, you can’t get mad at everyone else for implying you are spoiled when you yourself said " I know I’m being spoiled and ungrateful." I have to admit your financial situation and that of your parents is of no concern to me. If they can afford to give you a car that’s great for you. I’m really sorry you don’t like the car and seem to feel it’s such “a mess” that your parents GAVE you a car. I felt the same way at 19 when I BOUGHT an 82 plymoth reliant 2 door 2 tone car from the neighbor and OMG it had am radio only and no a/c, had to roll the windows down and actually put the key in the door to lock and unlock it !! I used to park 3 miles from my destination and walk. Not sure what you expected us to say in reply to your post… you have a nicer, newer, free car than many of us are paying loans on and complaining about “the whole mess.” I get that life sucks at times and the definition of “sucks” varies for everyone.
maybe she doesn’t like the car because her mom was the driver.
maybe it just feels “icky” to be driving mom’s car.
who knows?
Princess, I hope you get what you want.
You’re blessed with having youth, and vitality, and the whole world ahead of you.
Enjoy life, and make that car you want one of your goals. You’ll be really happy when you achieve that goal.
Princess, I know what it’s like to be in an area of town where everyone is spoiled. It drains you. Hopefully, when you graduate, you can move to a side of town where it doesn’t matter what type of car, what size house, what kind of clothes, you have, matters. Get away from those types, and live amongst real people, who appreciate all they have, and aren’t eaten up with pride.
knittingnat, its not so much that im offended, its more that im frusterated with everyone twisting what i am saying. I am not asking for an ultra “cool” car, just something i feel comfortable and myself in. I dont “expect” everything of my parents, its just one little disappointment that i stated and clearly said i know its somewhat selfish and ungrateful, but its how i feel and i cant help that. Have you ever received a gift and been disappionted by it? im sure its happened to everyone, and this so happens to be my incidence.
i think that something that might affect how i feel about all this that people dont realize is that i come from a car family. my dad just got an M3(its older, and worth less than my vibe!!!) and its sweet! my sister just bought her first car after graduating and having a steady income, and she got a mini cooper to race. we also have a few older porsches (aka the 70s, not ultra expensive). my whole family drives manuals and races cars, its what we pride ourselves in. We sacrafice family vacationing in order to afford our hobby. Hence my disappoinment a little more maybe?
i really dont feel like explaining myself anymore to those who want to judge me and point out what their life was like. I am not living your life, and even so i have a right to feel disappointed.
I can see your opinions as valid IF i were to go stomping off to my parents complaining and asking them to get me something else, but i havent. I have said thank you, and shown them none of my disappointment.
Princess, I know what it’s like to be in an area of town where everyone is spoiled. It drains you. Hopefully, when you graduate, you can move to a side of town where it doesn’t matter what type of car, what size house, what kind of clothes, you have, matters. Get away from those types, and live amongst real people, who appreciate all they have, and aren’t eaten up with pride.
thank you photolady, that means a lot to me. It really is draining…and then to want to go vent to some kind people because you have no one else to vent to and be treated like i am those spoiled people is really frusterating
Also, you can’t get mad at everyone else for implying you are spoiled when you yourself said " I know I’m being spoiled and ungrateful."
what have i actually DONE that is spoiled, beside voice some disappointment to STRANGERS. i havent said or done anything to actually change the situation or said anything to my parents because i know better.
A free car and you are complaining. I was past 20 when ‘I’ bought my first car, paid my own insurance and maintenance, was also working, going to school. Prior to this auto I took public transportation and in L.A. that was not an easy chore. Say, three different busses to get to school or to the conservatory. I would say, be thankful, forget the ‘others’ and be happy you have wheels. So many people, of all ages, are driving old, beat-up cars because that is all they can afford, and I don’t imagine they think they are driving a car that ‘suits’ them either.
I am not trying to be rude or snarky, and didn’t think there was anything wrong with pointing out that you could try and be happy or make changes to get what you want (IE, buy your own car). Seems like a solution to the problem to me. :shrug:
If you post on a public forum, you should expect to hear different opinions. I’m sorry you feel like you’re being attacked here, but your attitude that your parents “owe” you anything is bound to drum up some remarks since a lot of people here are parents, and parents of teenagers, myself included. Your parents don’t “owe” you, and now that you’re 19, they’re not even responsible for you anymore. You’re an adult. However, they may, and probably will decide to [I]help[/I] you, for which you should be grateful. Like them giving you a car.
That’s an opinion from a mother of two teenagers. It’s not intended to be hurtful or derogatory. Please don’t take offense. I understand you’re not thrilled with your car, but I think if you thought more about how fortunate you are, you would find it easier to be comfortable in it, and even make some changes to make it more “you”.
I hope you can find some happiness with it. Honestly. It really is a nice little car.
i simply needed somewhere to vent, hence the title. I never planned on saying ANYTHING to my parents, and i never planned on trying to get a different car because thats just not an option right now. i simply wanted to vent. i AM grateful they gave it to me, and i DO realize i am lucky to have it, i never said i wasnt, i was simply disappointed with how its been having it. a small little emotion in my head i needed a place to release.
i have really been put off by how rude some people have worded things, i understand people are going to give me opinions, but geeze it can be done in a nicer way.
apparently abbily is the only one who caught onto that 
If it makes ya feel any better, I have a Vibe…It wasn’t so much that I wanted that car, but, when we bought it, used, it wasn’t even a year old, the price was right, and, it still had the original warranty on it. We needed something (other than my truck) that was reliable, and, we had no room for the kids in the truck and the Vibe had enough room for us all. Even though I wasn’t crazy about it, I really learned to love it…And I pimped it out all in my style…haha…I have my band bumper stickers all over it, my Betty Page stickers, my skull air fresheners, my skull and crossbones steering wheel cover, etc. Honestly, the Vibe is a great car. I have seen nothing but wonderful ratings on it, and, the gas mileage is pretty good.
I too know what it’s like to be stuck with a car you’re not happy about…When I was a teen, I had to drive an 80 something Dodge Aries…with a gasp cassette player! HA! But, in time, that car really grew on me too. I have a tendency to…er…“mark my territory” so to speak…haha…and I can quickly and easily make any car mine just by adding my favorite “ornaments” to it whether it be seat covers, steering wheel covers, bumper stickers, etc. What about maybe getting a paint job done on it in a color you love? Then add your own stickers to it and such. It’s amazing how the little things can really transform the way you feel about your car. Oh, and the first car I bought with my own money was an '85 Ford Escort…LOL! Yep, ended up loving that little piece of crap as well!
Even though it’s not what ya want, you should try to make the best of it…If ya can’t have the car ya want, at least pile on your favorite accessories to make it feel like it suits you better.
Me and hubby are a bit of car lovers ourselves, but we can’t afford it:teehee:. How about you ask your parents to drive one of the other cars sometimes, just to feel a bit of adrenalin, ya know:eyebrow:?
I do not think i was rude in my previous posts (otherwise i would got a note from the moderators:teehee:), but just trying to express myself clearly. When you post a vent without any background, you should expect reactions to the post itself. Your later posts made the situation clearer and more understandable, at least to me and that’s why i also wrote “that you’re obviously a hard working person who knows what money is”. When you mention that you’re a family enjoys cars as a hobby, it gives the whole matter a different aspect. I myself refer to our car as a “she”:oo:.
Go back and reread your own post. You’ve admitted to being spoiled and ungrateful which along with the tone of your post probably caused many of the responses. It’s possible you didn’t mean it to come out sounding that way, but we have no way of knowing that.
When you post something in a public forum you [I]are[/I] going to get responses and many different views some of which you’ll agree with, some you won’t. It’s that way no matter what the topic.
Let this be a lesson to you (and everyone) - reread your post carefully and think how it might be perceived by other people [U]before[/U] you click submit. Even then, considering that the members of this forum are different ages, beliefs, cultures, etc, posts like this will probably hit a nerve somewhere. Just the nature of life on the internet.
Save your pennies and someday you’ll be able to get the car of your dreams and you’ll remember how frustrated you are now and appreciate it all the more. 
When I first saw this post I thought sheesh, at least she has a car that runs… I understand your frustration at not having what you want but I also want to say that at 19, you are really responsible for getting yourself what you want.
I’m 47 years old, the mother of a 19 year old. I’d love to be able to give her a car, but as a single mom, I can’t even afford a car for myself. We were in an accident and the car was totalled and I was out of work for a week with a concussion. Despite the fact that I work 40 plus hours a week, being a single mom I can’t afford to buy a new/used/clunker car. My daughter and I ride the bus and she gets rides from her father.
I guess what I’m trying to say to you is that I’m sorry you are unhappy with your situation. At that age, I went to school, paid all my own bills and paid for my own car and insurance. You are very lucky to have parents that can help you out. It is really hard not to be able to do things for your kids because you lack the funds. My daughter will have to do the same. Is it fair? Hell no it’s not fair. But it’s reality.
Please don’t feel attacked, these words are meant to show you another side of things. It is perfectly OK to vent your frustrations in fact it is healthy. But be prepared that when you do it on a place like this, you will get feedback and you might not always like it.