OK - I have not posted about all my recent drama here, but there has been quite a lot and I finally jut have to let it out.
My DD came back from her first year of school in June. She was still 17 at the time (turned 18 in August) In mid July she indicated that she met a Japanese man who was 23. I thought that was a little old for her, but I kept and open mind. i did tell her that my BF and I had to meet him. Well, we met him and I thought he looked a little older than 23, but my BF thought it was my imagination. I actually wanted to check his drivers license, but I thought twice and didn’t. Well it turns out he was 33 - about to turn 34 at the end of July. He is 8 months younger than me! and a couple of months older than my BF (Yes I was 16 when she was born). I felt so sick to my stomach when I found this out. I cried, we argued, I told her that she couldn’t see him anymore and that I was calling the cops and immigration (ok maybe a bit overboard, but I swear I was beside myself). I came to find out that she had sent a lot of her stuff to his house while she was away and that she planned on moving in with him. Well, we went through a lot in the 3 weeks from that revelation to her birthday on August 3rd. I asked her to please not make a major decision until she knew herself better and to please not throw away her youth. Well, needless to say she has now moved out and is with this man who is my age. I don’t know how I can accept him. I think about how much I want her around for Thanksgiving and holidays and then I think “How can I have this man in my house? How can I treat him like my daughter’s boyfriend when he’s my age?”. My BF is taking this horribly. He doesn’t think we should have them over at all, but I flat out refuse to not have a relationship with my daughter.
Now she has also decided not to go to school and I just don’t know what’s going on. I’m just having a horrible time with this. I just talked to her a few minutes ago and arranged a time for her to pick up her stuff. I asked her if she wants her bed and she said to donate it to Goodwill and it just sent me into a fit of tears.
I guess I’m just ranting here. I have to get it out somewhere. I have a son that I’m trying to keep it together for and my BF is just raging at the thought that her boyfriend is older than he is so I can’t talk to him right now.
Anyway, sorry this is so long. Thanks for listening.