I would much MUCH rather people say “I’m not interested” or “this isn’t working for me” or whatever.
I dated a guy, who the day we ‘broke up’ if you can even call it that he was horrendously rude. He had been very unrude previously. I went to his house, picked him up paid for a cab to take us to the cinema, went paid for us to go in to see the movie (Jerry McGuire - his choice) paid for the cab back to his place and when we got there he just said “cya” and got out the cab ran indoors and that was that.
He didn’t have the guts to tell me he was no longer interested and he didn’t have the courtesy to even offer some money towards the last night out. He didn’t once even put his hand in his pocket - its not that I was forceful its that he navigated it that way.
We arrived at the cinema, he got out of the cab and walked off so I had to pay. I followed into the cinema he was in the line I stood next to him then when we were about to reach the tills he said “have to pee brb” and disappeared off. I paid because I was at the front of the queue and he had chosen which movie queue to join so thats the one we went to see.
I always have to have a drink when I see a movie, I find the cinema too hot and end up being thirsty so I went to get a drink. He came along grabbed bags of sweets, popcorn and the biggest drink you’ve ever seen - put them in front of me and walked off leaving me to pay.
The guy had been nice before but he behaved in such a jerkish way and was a spineless loser in the end. I was glad in a way that I saw him for what he was, but I was also annoyed that he was so spineless and couldn’t just say it outright.
At least if you’re gonna break with someone don’t be so rude to take them for a night out and make them pay for everything! Just call it.