Okay, my lil guy is 16 mos old, and I’ve only got the one, but here’s my parenting take:
Every family is different (and not in a Anna Karenina way!) and every child is different.
You know your child best, and what works at one stage might be totally wrong at another.
We said we weren’t going to sleep with the baby, we did, for a while.
We said we weren’t going to let him use a pacifier, and after waiting six weeks, I gave in, but we took it away with no real fuss (on HIS part… it was MY crutch by then) before his first birthday.
We said we wouldn’t let him cry, but we find that after our bedtime routine, unless he’s already passed out from crankiness, he will cry for about 5-10 minutes and then go to sleep and stay asleep until morning. Longer crying that gets more intense means he’s not ready for bed, and we need to go get him and calm him down before trying again once he gets sleepy.
We only started doing this after he started sleeping through the night consistently (no nighttime feedings at all). At one month, I wouldn’t recommend this, instead I’d advise the hand on the back method. Stand at the crib and put your hand on the baby’s back or body and go “shusssssssshhhhhhhhh” long and medium loud. Check out the baby whisperer’s site for more details: www.thebabywhisperer.com. While I don’t agree with everything she says, I do agree with her that moderation is the key.
My mom says I am black and white, but as I get older I see the value of balance and shades of gray.
My opinion: one month is too young to “let them cry it out.”
Every baby is different, and you know yours best. Go with your gut.