When is the wedding? I would suggest giving yourself a lot of time to get used to a new style before the wedding.
I’m not one for making big changes in my hairstyle all at once…tried that about three years ago and I feel like I’ve just recently recovered.
My best suggestion would be to do plenty of research. Find pictures online or from magazines…both styles you like, and also some you hate. Taking picures along helps a lot. Also, write down anything you want to remember to tell the stylist. If I don’t have it written down, it’s guaranteed that I will forget something. How much time do you want to spend on your hair on a daily basis? What have you liked about past hairstyles? What haven’t you liked?
Most salons will let you schedule a free 10-15 minute consultation with a stylist. This has worked out really well for me in the past when trying to find someone new. It gives you a chance to get ideas from a variety of stylists, and get a sense of who you’d like to have cut your hair. They don’t all have to be from different salons, either, although I think it’s a good idea to shop around. I’ve called a salon before and said something like, “I’m looking to find a new person to cut my hair, and I’d like to set up consultations with a few of the stylists that work in your salon.” Stylists usually have various levels of ability or training, and are usually priced accordingly. So you might want to ask about their various levels and set up an appointment with one of each (such as stylist, advanced stylist, master stylist…or whatever titles they use at any given salon).
Getting a few “professional opinions” can help give you more ideas, as well as a plan for how to get there.
I would suggest starting with cutting your hair just below shoulder length, and maybe add some long layers for movement (nothing shorter than chin length). And I also agree with the others who have said it’s time to ditch the poof.