To make a long story short:
When my brother and I were kids we were adopted into a family with 2 kids, and grew up believing it was just the two of us. Our birth mother had died so our birth father gave us up.
It wasn’t until nearly 10 years ago that we discovered we had an older sister. I have always had questions about her, what her name was, did she survive our terrible childhood, did she turn out alright, was she alive even. My brother hasn’t been quite so curious but has speculated sometimes about her. We always thought she wouldn’t remember us because she was only 5 when we were adopted. The fact that we didn’t remember her either made us think she didn’t remember us. We were told she’d gone to live with a relative so we assumed our birth dad was out of the picture.
Ok. So last night my mom gets a phone call from a distant relative, saying that this girl has been calling everyone in the phonebook of her city with our last name. Asking about us. She says she is our sister.
The distant relative of ours took the girls number and gave it to my mom who then called her last night. My mom is sure this is our sister. She has all the information, everything corroborates what we know of our childhood including the abuse and neglect our mother inflicted on us. It turns out she grew up with our birth father, and has a happy, normal life now.
I have her number now. I’ve spoken with my brother who agrees I should ring her first and then he’ll call her later.
But what do I say?! After ‘I’m your sister’!
I’m so nervous. My DH is here with me, but I need some other thoughts on the subject, even if you don’t really understand! Or if you do!
I have a headache from crying so much and I feel so weird. This is all so surreal.
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