OT: Having a REALLY BAD day!

My DH is not doing well lately. It seems that just when he starts to get better something happens and he’s right back where he started from. We went to a Christmas party where he picked up a cold, which turned into pneumonia. He has pulmonary problems to begin with. Now the remnants of the pneumonia and the chemo have effected his appetite so now he’s not eating or he’s eating very little. I just want to cry sometimes because I don’t know what to do. I wish I could make the cancer and the pulmonary fibrosis and all the other crap go away. He has gotten so old in just 2 years. I want him to be happy and healthy again. We try to be positive and laugh and tell jokes but some days, like today, reality creeps in and we both get scared and I fight back tears all day. I don’t let him see me cry because I have to be strong for him. Today as we were driving home from yet another doctor’s appointment I thought I want to just pack a bag, throw it in the car and drive leaving everything behind. When the feeling passed I felt like, well you know. Knitting and this site are at least 2 things that keep me sane. I normally would not say any of this to anyone but I feel that I can trust all of you. Oh man, I’m sorry if I got whiny, I hope you all won’t judge me too harshly. Thanks for letting me vent.

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Nadja xxx

Oh, Nadja,

I’m so sorry to hear about your husband.

I know how hard it can be to live with someone who is sick all the time.

I have close friends who are dealing with the same issue.

I’m sending you many cyber hugs –

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I’m so sorry! What you are feeling is perfectly normal. Have you considered finding a support group? Your local hospital or the doctor may know of one or two you could check out.

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I, too, have had to live with lots of illness. It’s hard, and you’re feeling absolutely normal. There are times when I say that I’m just so tired of sick people. To the sick people. :shrug:

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My mother had pulmonary fibrosis. It’s not an easy disease. My heart goes out to you and your dh.

I’m so sorry you have so much on your plate right now :pout:.

It can be so difficult to be strong for someone else when you’re scared too.

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Everyone needs to let off some steam now and then - more so when you’ve got such tough things to deal with. Feel free to vent anytime!

We love you!
We carry hope for you, and rant whenever you need it and as we read we carry your burden for you…if just for a moment.
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Wow, you’re going through quite alot.
I know what it’s like to live and care for someone who’s sick all the time too. It’s tough.
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You can vent all you want here. :hug:

I don’t know what else to say except I’m sorry. Sorry you have to go through this, sorry your hubby has to go through this and sorry I can’t do anything to make it better for you. You’re both in my thoughts, hopefully tomorrow will be a better day. :hug:

Oh, nadja, I’m so sorry. I’ll be praying for you and your family. Many, many :hug: :hug: :hug: to you.

Find a suppport group… No discussion. It is a must. It will help you, to be able to help him… You need help so you can be strong for him. No one can be all. It’s ok to ask for help

bear hugs your way. :hug:

Maybe this will cheer you up a little

You are a loving wife and person who is feeling UNDERSTANDIBLY overwhelmed… I am so sorry to hear it is going so rough… but the weather will soon be warmer and cold and flu season will go bye-bye~!! :!!!: :!!!: :!!!: and the risk of respiratory complications should decrease
Hugs and lots of love to you :heart: :heart: :heart:
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Thanks everyone, you’re all so great :hug: :hug: I feel better. I don’t know, sometimes things just catch up to me. I hate it when I give into it though.

I have thought about a support group, but the problem is finding the time to join one.

Mason, thank you, that was really funny. :roflhard: :roflhard: :roflhard:

Thank you all, I’m glad I have someone or someones I can go to when I’m feeling down. :muah: :muah: :muah: :muah: :muah: :muah: :muah:

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Nadja xxx

I agree with what the other said. I’m sure a support group would give you a good place to vent besides here :grphug:

Know that you and your husband will be in my thoughts. :hug: :hug: :hug:

I’m so very sorry to hear about what’s been going on, Nadja. It’s so incredibly difficult to be the patient, and it’s so incredibly difficult to be the caregiver…you both must be physically and emotionally exhausted. I send you and your husband the biggest hugs, and I will pray for you both. A support group sounds like a good idea. I hope things begin to get better soon. :heart: :heart: :heart:

Thinking of you… find time for that group, you’ll be glad you did. :heart: :heart: :heart:


Praying for your family…


I have thought about a support group, but the problem is finding the time to join one.

You need to find time for you - I know that can be difficult with everything thats going on, but even if you can’t find a group that fits your timing, find a little time every day just for you.

Share your workload with close friends and family if you can - make sure you have a good support network in reallings as well as on here. You can always vent here but sometimes its best to have a good cry with someone.

I feel for you, I hope things get better soon.
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I think I know how it feels… because I had gone through the same type of situation with my mom before and I felt really, really scared. But eventually we all made it through, so I know you can too! :heart: Feel free to vent anytime! We’ll all be praying for you and your dh :pray: and giving u hugs :hug:

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:pray: Prayers for you and your husband.