My MIL is taking everyone to dinner in a couple of weeks; it would’ve been her and my FIL’s 50th wedding anniversary, but he passed away a few years ago. I really feel like I wanted to either make or buy a cake for the dinner as a nice gesture, but I’m not sure. I can’t ask my husband because he won’t give an opinion (he’ll hem and haw and be indecisive and we won’t get anywhere!). I don’t want to ask my MIL because I wanted it to be a surprise.
Would this be an okay thing to do? Or would it be hurtful? It seems she wants to commemorate the event in some way, which is why I was thinking a cake might be okay. If I did bring a cake, what might it say? I want to do something that would be a kind thing to do, and not hurtful in any way.