I need to make some changes

I’m fat. I’ve gained a lot of weight and it seems I am unable, or unwilling to do anything about it. I’m uncomfortable and angry with myself but don’t seem to have the willpower or strength to change it. I did Weight Watchers a few years ago and lost weight but can’t seem to bring myself to try again.

I am out of shape, walking too much or any activity really winds me and tires me out. I don’t want to walk around naked in front of my boyfriend and I used to all the time! He loves me for me, but says he will support me in any way he can if I want to lose weight.

I also smoke and am terrified of quitting. I quit once for five years but started again after separating from my ex. I get sweaty palms thinking of quitting now.

I don’t know why I’m writing this, I don’t know what I’m asking exactly. I don’t know I’m so scared to try to change things.

Maybe I just need suggestions? Or someone to tell me it’s ok to be fat and smoke. haha, just kidding.

I need to lose at least 20 pounds and WW is supposed to be really good, but since I’m not a joiner, I’m going to do it on my own. My main problem is that I need to move more; sounds like that’s what you need too. Start walking - if you can only do a block without getting winded, walk a block. Next week maybe you can walk 2 blocks. Then 3 blocks. You might look at your library for some easy yoga videos, that’s something you can do at home at your own pace and it will at least keep you moving.

Thank you suzeeq.

I am going to try the weight watchers online, it is a free registration for a week. I’ll check it out and see how it goes.

I just feel so bad. I’m only 37 years old and this out of shape?! and it’s no ones fault but my own.

I always tell people that I don’t like to exercise because it makes me sweat! :wink:

Soooooooooooo, how happy are you inside? I know that that’s a corny question but I truly believe that, until we are happy on the inside, we’re never gonna be happy with our outside.

I’ve been thinking all these same things as you lately. I’m about 25-30 pounds more than I want to be but just can’t seem to get myself motivated to do anything about it. And I like my 3 or 4 smokes a day darn it!

Last week, I got online to look for someone in my area who teaches yoga classes. My sister and friend both do yoga and they really love it. They say it helps them get relaxed and focused, which is something I’m working on myself. I’ve got a contact number and am going to call it this week to see what happens. I’m soooooooooooo not an exerciser and I really love to cook and eat, so I know it’s going to take some major motivating thoughts to get me going.

The cooler weather is coming to FL soon and I’m thinking that I might just start walking. I’ve got this adorable pug who loves to go for walks, so maybe I’ll just “take Nora walking” and forget about calling it exercise. I don’t know. Do YOU have a dog?

I’ll keep checking in on this thread to see how you’re doing. Maybe we can motivate each other. I’m sure, once I get in the routine, It’ll be easier to maintain it…

Gosh, I’m tired just thinking about it!:passedout:

larudden, that would be awesome! I think the reason weight watchers worked for me lat time was because I went with my best friend and we did it together. That was in California though and I don’t have any friends in Vermont. It’s hard to make friends when you are older I’ve found. I know people but not a girlfriend you know?

Can I take my cats out for a walk on a leash?:teehee:

Only if the cats let you…!

Have you checked out SparkPeople.com ? It’s free and it’s a great resource. I lost 15+ lbs. I haven’t been tracking my meals lately. Need to start doing that again so I don’t stray too far off track and will get the nutrients I need.

Ok, a bit of honesty here. If you’re that out of shape at your age that a very good sign that you need to exercise. The body needs exercise to function properly.

Start slow with just walking or riding a bicycle a short distance and gradually work up from there. 20 minutes a day is a great start.

How many times a day do you eat? The best way to boost metabolism is to eat several small meals a day instead of just one or two larger ones. Of course eating the right foods helps, but spacing your food out through the day goes a long way towards keeping metabolic rates up.

It’s really a very simple formula. Burning more calories than you take in causes weight loss. Taking in more than you burn causes weight gain.

At this point I’d be more concerned about you being so out of shape than with your weight. Get yourself a bicycle and start riding it. I love riding a bike and do so as often as I can manage.

I have a recumbent bike at home which is my only transportation when home off the road, and I carry a folding bicycle in the truck with me.

Mason I don’t mind honesty!

No, I do not exercise unless you count housework which sometimes I do and sometimes I don’t.

A typical day is: coffee in the morning, a bagel or muffin and coffee at about 10:15, lunch at 1:30 which is usually something bad for me from the quickie mart, and snacking in the afternoon, a candy bar or something. Dinner is pretty good because I cook for the kids and for some reason find it easier to tell them what to eat, health wise than to do it myself. Tonight was baked chicken, broccoli and rice a roni. Ok, not that great. Night is my bad time. I always want to eat at night. Cereal sometimes, a cookie, etc.

My problem is probably how much I eat.

bike riding is probably something I wouldn’t do much. I’d probably walk a lot more easily than ride a bike. I live in Vermont for goodness sake! I have a whole entire beautiful forest in back of my house, with a brook and a path and everything. Just getting to the point of actually getting off my A** and getting going would be awesome.

I’m very glad I wrote this because it gives me some motivation. I’m tired of being tired out from simple things that should be no problem.

Thak you so much for listening to me, I appreciate it a lot.

I recently lost 25 pounds. I went from 164 to 139 (My lowest weight was 115 as an adult). I started in January using Weight Watchers but I only lasted about 3 weeks with them. I lost 10 pounds while I was with them. I lost the other 15 pounds on my own. I never was a big eater or a sweets eater, but I found that I was eating later than normal and not eating a well rounded meal. So I changed my eating habits slowly; eating more vegetables, drinking more water, trying food prepared in a healthier manner. It seemed to work. By June I lost the other 15 pounds. I haven’t gained it back at all. I also take a multivitamin everyday before I have breakfast. It seems to curb my appetite. Plus I’m a Pre-K Teacher so I am always on the move, lol.

All in all, do what you think is best for you. Talk with your honey before you make a decision about what you want to do. Whatever you decide, know that you are a beautiful person inside and out no matter what the scale says.

My boyfriend is awesome. He says he loves ME, but he wants me to be happy and healthy so I’ll be around a long time and he will support anything I decide to do. I’m lucky. :slight_smile: and that’s funny Angel, he just told me I need to take a multi vitamin.

I’m going to try and eat better, and not think I’m on a diet. If i do that it would be like a challenge. Eating better, choosing healthier things to eat and exercising sounds doable to me.

My story, the short version:

Fell ill. Haven’t exercised in five years. Been living off take-aways for two years. Overweight. No longer ill. Now too unfit to exercise. Started walking around the block. Did that twice. Lost my mind. Booked a canoe-trip last weekend (September 23rd). Went there. Got in the canoe. Canoe floated. ROWED 13 miles (21 km) to the cabin. Managed to get out of canoe. Died a little. ROWED 13 miles (21 km!) back to the start. Survived.

The lesson?

I sat in front of a pc for five years, eating KFC, burgers and pizza. I still managed to row all that way. Either I’m getting fitter while I type this, or we’re built tougher than I thought.

Bad news is, now I have in the back of my mind “Hey, I rowed 42 friggin’ kilometers last week, I burnt off this chocolate cake I’m about to eat!”

So now, you tell yourself “just do it” while I yell from this side “you can do it!” and keep us updated, because I’m not stopping here and I’d like to have a fellow-knitter on this journey with me.

Moving to a new apartment Wednesday, the place has a gym for residents. I’m so there!

Here is the one pic I could find of me in the canoe without my double chin showing:

And this is the sin I’m committing right now: (that’s the forum on the monitor…)

I’ll be strong. Tomorrow. All the best to you.

I know how you feel. I was on WW real good for about 6 months. I lost 30 pounds. I was feeling good! DH was doing it, dropped out and now wants to have all sorts of bad food around. Not to mention, things are really stressful at work, one piece of chocolate won’t hurt right?

The things I did to change (and that I am still doing) were easy. I use the salad plate i/o the dinner plate- less food but the plate looks full. I have a treat every night- Edy’s (Dreyer’s depending where you are) Slow Churned light ice cream (fills my sweet tooth desire) and I put it in a coffee mug- it’s WAY smaller than my bowls. I make sure I eat breakfast, a morning snack (usually a granola bar), lunch (lean cuisine- the points are on the package) and a mini bag of popcorn in the afternoon. Then, I make sure to eat a good dinner. I cut out soda, most alcohol (have 1 glass of wine a week) and all other sweets.

I am back on full force today, and remember, the first week is HARD! I am always hungry! I drink water and chew gum- it works for me. Find what works for you.

I know it would be much easier to do with a friend, especially the exercise part…wish I had one here. Oh well, gotta start somewhere so I guess diet first, exercise second.

Good luck!:waving:

First, STAY AWAY FROM THE FAST FOOD! That stuff is the worst thing you can eat. Pack something healthy from home.

Change your snacking habits to something healthier like fruit, carrot sticks, etc. Personally I love dried fruits like apricots, bananas, dates, etc. for snacking.

The first three letters in diet is DIE. Never diet, just eat healthy and exercise, that’s all you need.

If I had a forest behind my house I’d probably spend more time there than in the house :rofl:

Get yourself a good hiking stick and go hiking in the woods. Believe me, a hiking stick can be a real life saver. I’ve hiked extensively all over the country, including the Appalachian trail. Once you get started you’ll love it.

Ok, I’ll shut up now. :wink:

At my unhealthiest point, I weighed in around 230 lbs. At 5’3", it was like carrying a piano on my shoulders all day long. My joints hurt all the time and one day my blood sugar got so low, that I crashed driving home from school. A few months later I was diagnosed with PCOS, which can lead to diabetes, cancer, heart disease, depression, blah blah blah. I’d had it for over a decade and didn’t have a clue. I’ve lost about 60 lbs, gained 20 and am trying to shed off another 30 so that my insulin stops skyrocketing.

Start small. If you look at yourself and say that you need to loose 30 lbs and walk a few miles every day and eat super healthy and all that jazz, you probably won’t do it.
Break down your long term goals into short term ones.

Put on some shoes and start walking. Walk for about half an hour, come back home. When you go grocery shopping, or to the mall, park as far away from the main entrance as you can. Use stairs instead of elevators.
Carry healthy snacks with you, specially if they’re filling. They’ll keep you from feeling cravings all the time. Drink lots of water.

I know this may sound bad, but stop weighing yourself often. Do it twice a month or something, or once. If you weigh yourself often and you see little change you’ll feel depressed and have setbacks.

you guys are awesome. I can’t tell you how much better I feel. I don’t know it seems like such an unsurmountable problem to me. I don’t know why I feel like food is such an important part of my life. To me, food is love. Cooking and baking for my family is love to me, but there is such a thing as loving to death and I don’t want to do that.

Thank you all so much, your words mean a lot to me. I don’t have a lot of friends here in Vermont but now I feel like I have a lot of friends all over the place!

I know what you mean about food being important in your life.
I pretty much grew up in the kitchen, with my Grandmother teaching me about mexican food. I even worked as a cook for a brief period.

Don’t let your quest for weight loss make you feel bad about food. On the contrary, it’s a challenge to conquer. Find the healhier versions of your favorite things and explore what sort of stuff can do you with it.
Like pasta? Try whole wheat pasta. Get creative with grilling and low-sodium marinades. Buy veggies - fresh or frozen - and think of all the dishes you can extra veggies to.
It’s a whooooole new palette to play with, and you know what? It’s both tasty and fun :woot:

I hear what you are saying. I am at the exact same point, albeit likely for different reasons. I tell myself that at least I have reached a point of acknowledging the problem…I may not be totally ready to do anything about it, but I know what I need to do when I am.

I’ve also found that trying to change everything at once overwhelming and therefore not very successful. Maybe focusing on one thing and feeling good about that change after awhile will lead to taking on something else, etc etc.

Good luck!

Don’t equate healthy food with not tasting good. Healthy foods can taste as good or better than junk.

Tonight was baked chicken, broccoli and rice a roni. Ok, not that great. Night is my bad time. I always want to eat at night. Cereal sometimes, a cookie, etc.

That wasn’t a bad dinner - baked chicken is better than fried, and at least you got a vegetable in there. You probably want to snack at night because you haven’t eaten enough during the day. You need more for breakfast, a little midmorning snack, a better lunch and maybe a light snack in the aftenoon - depends on how late you eat. Or you could save the 2nd snack for after dinner, but make it healthier, like fruit. Maybe a couplathree times a week you can have a treat like lite ice cream, but only a couple Tablespoons.

Another thing to try is eat some protein every time you eat something - crackers or toast with cheese or peanut butter, meat/fish with a potato or veggies, cereal for breakfast with an egg on the side (or an egg/toast sandwich) and fruit and nuts together. Yogurt has some protein in it and makes a good snack, but watch out for high fructose corn syrup in it, so you may want to get a `Lite’ one.

You probably get winded so easy from the smoking, so if you can cut down (not asking you to quit), that will help.