Cuz I am at a loss just now.
He is terribly discouraged right now. He’s a youth pastor…which means long hours, late nights, too much drama, and absolutely no thanks. Ever.
He is having a hard time right now and is just really having a hard time wanting to show up for work. He loves “our” kids with his whole heart, but lately, the drama has been too much, too stupid and he’s just tired. Weary, really.
One of our kids told him he’s not sure he will be coming back. We’ve spend the last 4 years with this kid…spent more time with him than I can even account for. He hasn’t had a father figure at all, so he and dh have spent a LOT of time together, building things, putting together a band, etc.
Well, he’s not the most functional person, and he has given us a lot of trouble too. We see a lot of promise in him, if he would ever get over himself and look around.
But right now, he’s mad at dh for something that dh has no control over, and he’s decided that he isn’t going to be in the band anymore and may quit youth group entirely.
Dh is hurt and feels rejected.
Meanwhile, two other kids aren’t showing up right now because dh had to talk to them about PDAs in the church (really, who sits on their boyfriend’s lap during church?). He didn’t yell at them, he just told them what is acceptable and what isn’t and then said, “What you’re doing now is not appropriate and you need to stop. Thanks.”. The boy is one of the pastor’s kids, so he knew better. The girl knew better too. They just didn’t care.
So dh is struggling right now.
How in the world do you make a man smile when he feels like the world is kicking him around?!?