What everyone is saying is absolutely right…most of the time. There are some patterns that are very row dependent and you need to get the row gauge as well. I hate those, and like you were drooling about, how in the world can you get both if one is right and the other is wrong? I completely understand your frustration. I hope your pattern is not row dependent that makes it so much easier.
But if it is important to get both gauges…The easy answer is forget it. :lol: Look for a pattern that is not giving you these kinds of fits. I have found that I can sometimes change my row gauge and keep the stitch gauge right by using a different needle and very consciously knitting to a different tension. It is trial and error as far as I know. And sometimes I’ve found that I can get closer to what I need by using a different yarn. That’s when the pattern is something you really want to do, but it is row and stitch dependent, and you are willing to change yarn to use a must have pattern. No easy solution.
I sure hope what everyone has said will work in your case, that they give you inches throughout and the pattern is not row dependent.Crossed Fingers