I don’t know if it will help, but for me, I find that if I persist on a pattern for a few rows, it helps. I don’t always see the pattern emerging until maybe a few rows have gone by, so I tend to get frustrated right away. Maybe you’re doing it right, but you haven’t knitted enough rows to see your pattern clearly? Also, with regards to increases and decreases (like lace patterns), make sure you’re counting your stitches every time you finish a row to make sure you didn’t accidentally add in another stitch or drop off a stitch. This is really helpful advice that was given to me.
I think you can do it. It amazes me how much I’ve learned in the 2 years I’ve been knitting. I’ll certainly never be a professional or anything, but when I look at books that I was convinced I’d never be able to knit stitches from not that long ago–and now I can do them successfully and confidently with ease–it gives me a “boost” to keep on trying new things. And everybody on this list is SOOO KNOWLEDGEABLE and helpful, which has helped a lot; the collective experience in this group AMAZES me. Don’t give up. Using a little bit larger needles and some worsted weight yarn to do lace patterns (just to try them out) may be the best way to be able to see what the patterns are. You can do this!!!