no one has asked…but Facebook has been a pretty good 10 year reunion!
So far there has only been a 10 year reunion for my former high school and I had absolutely no desire to go. Sure, I had friends in high school, but, they were high school friends. Once we graduated, none of us ever spoke again.
Our reunion was organized on Classmates.com and they have an option there for people to RSVP with a yes, no, or maybe. I checked out the details of the reunion and even though I had no plans to go anyway, I sure the hell wasn’t gonna go after I saw the cost of attending! I have MySpace and Facebook and can talk to the people I want to for FREE, and, if I really wanted to, set up a meetup for FREE!
I didn’t even go to my high school graduation, that’s how badly I wanted to just be done with school :teehee: I went up to the school the day after graduation and got my diploma from the office…lol
they didn’t do a 5 yr, and 10 yrs isn’t until 2010, so I don’t know if they’ll do one. If I do receive an invitation, I probably will not go(but I will RSVP with a ‘No’, as I was raised with manners). There’s nobody in my graduating class I’m even remotely interested in meeting again. All of my friends & people I knew were in the year ahead of me (I took a lot of senior classes my junior year), and I probably will go to their 10 yr reunion next year with my best friend (and she will RSVP ‘Yes + 1 guest’).
It’s like herding cats to get any large group of people together like that. Kudos to you for taking it on!
I have passed my 10th and 15th reunions now- and I didn’t go. I did RSVP that I would not be there though. I live pretty far away and to be perfectly honest- I have no desire to go. That was a really tough period in my life, and I don’t want to revisit it or most of the people.
ETA- Gee- I thought I was the only one. Nope.
Neither my husband or I have been contacted about school reunions. We both graduated from the same high school just 3 years apart and I don’t even know if they had any reunions. My husbands relatives still live at the same address the school had for us at graduation so who knows. We wouldn’t attend because we moved about 3000 miles away.
Funny about class reunions. I was not in the “group” yet after high school it did change. No one wanted to get it started so a bunch of us got together and we had a great time. Nothing big and we have done this since the our 5th reunion. I retired and moved so I missed the 40th reunion. I did rsvp even though we don’t all out so that most people can make it. I don’t know why some classes think they have to go all out. We did that one year and I don’t think to many came. They tried to make it like a prom didn’t go over to big, most of the women were pregnant :teehee:. I say keep it normal and more people will come.
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My class had a 1-year (silliness!), 5-year, 10-year and in 2007 the 20th. I never received an invite for any of them except the 20th, and I was married to a classmate in 1997 (10th) and he got one and I didn’t. Sent to our home, no less. I have no idea how or why this happens. Since I never got invites there was nothing to RSVP for.
I went to the 20th, which was in Saratoga Springs, not far from where I live. I split a hotel room with friend from WV and our other friends went out with us. On Friday night, an arranged drinks get-together at a local bar was arranged. It was great fun seeing lots of folks and catching up. The reunion itself was held Saturday night. Saturday, during the day, we walked around the downtown area and ran into old friends again. Fun.
The Saturday night reunion was awful. Food was a buffet with lay-outs on both sides of the hall. It was very much like eating in the cafeteria with everyone keeping to their cliques. Not fun. There was music and dancing, but the “hosts” didn’t do anything to address us, or bring us together in any way. It was just a “mingle yourself” thing. Time for that is great, but there could have been something to bring us together.
I won’t go to another one. I’d still get the hotel room with my friends and see everyone the night before and walk around downtown shopping and eating lunch. But, I have no need to spend $70 to feel like I’m in high school again. I’ve grown up. My close friends are still my friends and that’s all I need.
Thanks for all the replies - I really appreciate the different ways of looking at things. I guess when you’re the planner, it’s really hard to understand why people won’t come. Most of us do as much as we possibly can to appeal to everyone, as we realize it is a party for the whole class, and not just certain groups.
Maybe it’s just my class, but I’ve found that as the years have passed, the groups have diminished greatly. Of course the people who hung out together in high school will head to each other first, as we’re all scattered, and even though they may keep in contact by email, it’s great to see someone in person; but before the evening’s over, everyone is mixing with everyone. I think you’ll still find groups of people…but not necessarily for the reason you’d think. It’s amazing how many people we had out of our class that ended up in the medical field (people you knew would do it, and people you had NO clue that they had any interest in that), so they tend to get together and trade “war stories” (several trauma room nurses from our class), people who have found new hobbies, etc. In fact, after our last one in June, I got a note from one of the gals who used to be a cheerleader (one of the groups you’d expect to be real snobs) and she said she had an idea for the next one, but needed to get in touch with this one guy from our class (who would have been - and was by his own admission on his “biographical form” - considered one of the biggest nerds in the class). So, fortunately for us we’ve all grown up and hang together pretty close. I think the only one that doesn’t get to visit with people is me 'cause I’m always busy making sure everything’s running smootly. We don’t do games, just an introduction and welcome, and then “turn 'em loose”. My class seems to like it that way - games and awards take away from their mingling time. To each his own, I guess.
We keep it casual, although with our 40, 45, and 50 coming up, I think I’d like to see one of them be a fancy one…not to be morbid, but we’ve had 9 people pass away before the age of 53, and before we get up there too far I’d like to have one over our high school Homecoming weekend, with our own Homecoming dance, etc. Casual has been very cool, but I would like one “fancier, more memorable” at least once. My committee busts their behinds to make sure the price is reasonable - $30 a person. That includes all the mailings, a full class directory, a DJ, a nice hall, a sit down meal, and a souvenier. (This year our soveniers were peace necklaces and mood rings and a reunion keychain) We also had a PowerPoint show running throughout the evening, so they could check that out as they wished - it looped all night.
I never realized so many people had bad memories of high school! I guess because I was the “invisible person”, not a ton of friends, very shy, etc.; and I’ve ended up being the chair and having a blast (and I have been to every one and had a blast at each one, even before I got the chairman’s job), it just seemed like everybody should try it once. Oh yeah, and I was under 5 feet tall and 89 pounds in hs, looked more like a boy than a girl, and was teased unmercifully…and now I’m 5 foot tall and over twice the weight…and I still go and have fun.
So, thanks for the feedback, and please, keep it coming - it helps me a lot to know what is going on with people, so I can know what to try and do to have even more people turn out for the next one.
Thanks again!!!
Not me, I have no class :mrgreen:
Since graduating long before most of you were born, there were some reunions at Hollywood High. No, I did not attend. The school was so very large few knew one another.
And, then, there is DH: He would attend all sorts of reunions, pick a name and he was there. Now, all of his old friends are, shall we say, departed.
I really don’t know what good it does to attend: Oh, she is SOOO fat, he is SOOO ugly, on and on. Why? Life goes on and those you went to school with are usually off onto another life and there is nothing left but shallow memories. I don’t discount memories, don’t understand me; however, once you are out of school, things do change, some people do, some do not. Nothing like the class ‘jock’ who is now a fat, ugly blob.
Reunions? As Mason said, he did not have a class. Well, guess I did not either. As a young person at Hollywood High School, I was a nerd, not many liked me, I was tall, too much so, braces on the teeth, etc., etc., but then? Well, no braces anymore. By the way, I did make the cover of Look Magazine about an article regarding good old Hollywood HS.
Thanks for viewing this nonsense. IF reunions make you feel good - by all mean - go for it. Otherwise, life goes on and so we change. Thankfully. Hopefully.
My DH and I attended the same high school, but graduated 2 years apart. For his 10 yr. we did not attend since I was in the hospital recovering from thyroid surgery to find out if I had thyroid cancer (I didn’t). We did RSVP though. For my 10 yr. there were no invitations put out. They got the info to people by word of mouth and the newspaper, so no need to RSVP. I didn’t go though. It was at a football game, which I hate, and later there was a get together where I heard later that most of the people got beyond drunk. I’m glad I didn’t go. I hated high school. Except for meeting my future husband there, very little good came from it. All the people I want to keep in touch with, I already do without the reunion.
Do you really want to know the difference between people who attend their high school reunions and those who do not? Those who do have something to talk about. They’ve accomplished something. They’ve made something of their lives.
Me? By the time I went home, I would feel like a waste of oxygen. I would wonder why I’m still taking up space on this planet. I’d be dying inside from all the times during the evening I had to introduce myself by saying, “who, me? Oh, I’m nobody. I’m nothing. I’ve never done anything important. I never became anything significant.”
I can tell you in two simple words why I never attended any of my reunions: Suicide Prevention.