My DD asked me before Christmas what she “was to get for me” and I gave her several choices in several price ranges, including slippers, gloves, a knitting book or a handmade card from my grandchildren (which is what I really wanted but did not get). I specified the name of that book I wanted via e-mail so that she would be able to print it out and have it as a reference.
She is the type of person who, when asked, tells you exactly what you are to get for her or her children and if it is not what she told you to get, you are told to return it and get what she told you to purchase (and NO she was not raised that way!).
My DD got engaged on Christmas Eve and has already found a dress on a website that I have been told I am to buy and wear to her wedding. The dress is $458.00. Thankfully I have a year and nine months to save for the dress and the wedding.
My DD is an extremely demanding and controlling woman. If something is not what she wants or demands then she will not talk to me for months and months, thereby meaning that I don’t get to see my granchildren as well. I just went through this with her. It was 11 months that I did not see her or the children.
I have tried to be a good mother. I am considerate. I always run when asked to babysit or help out in any way. I constantly tell her how pretty she is, and how proud of her I am. I never refuse to talk to her or the children.
I made a huge fuss at Christmas time over the book that she had bought for me. A HUGE FUSS! I thanked her repeatedly and profusely. I CRIED I was so pleased! This is the first time in years I have gotten something from her at Christmas other than a calendar. I kept saying “and you went to all that trouble just for ME?”
The truth will out eventually! It turns out that the book I really asked for was out of stock the day she went to buy it a month before Christmas, and was also $6.98 more in price, so she just grabbed the one they did have on the shelf by the same author and said it would be “good enough for me” (her words)!
I am sorry you think I am such a bad mother and so ill mannered that I “rejected” her “thoughtful” gift. There are more chapters to this story than you know about or than I care to air on the internet. Let’s just leave it at this… the DD’s x boyfriend’s mother (my 1st grandchild’s other grandmother) is usually the one that gets the nice gifts from my DD for Christmas, Mother’s Day and birthdays and then DD always calls me and tells me what she has gotten this woman, who’s birthday is a few days before mine. When my birthday comes there is a phone call, an e-mail or one time an actual birthday card that she had gotten from someone else, erased the signature, signed the card and given to me, with NO envelope.
Anyways, I told you there is more to this story than you read on here. Think what you will of me, I KNOW I have been a good parent and grandparent.