I find myself in a new situation and would just like some words of wisdom from the many more experienced people of KH.
A while ago I posted that I have a new BF(I’ve known since I was 9)…here is the link so I don’t have to repeat the whole story.
Ok, basically I just met my BF’s son’s mom. Now we’ve met before about 5 times over the last 8 years, when they were together, but I met her as the GF, and the one who their son has been spending time with. So she knows my family, what kind of person I am, and she knows that her son really likes me. We went to the kindergarden granduation yesterday, and when the kids got released to the parents he ran past mom, waved at her and came straight to dad (my BF) and me showed us his diploma and asked if he could come home with us…to my house and stay. Mom kind of left the room at that point. Little jr. a few minutes later wanted to know where she was I told him she was outside and would love to see his diploma. He wanted me to come with him to show mom…I told him that mom would love to have him show her, and I’d be out in a minute. So he went out and showed mom the diploma for about 30 seconds then came back in to get me and daddy.
Mom was very nice, although when she realized who I was she got quiet and left pretty quickly. She’s a very nice person, and I think things will go ok, but I just want to make everything as smooth as possible. There is going to be some adjustment period, as daddy will soon be moving to where I am to be with me, and we’re getting more and more serious.
Little jr. is going to be spending more time with us now, as he will be on vacation, mom now knows who I am, knows that BF and I have known one another forever, knows my family, and saw how her son interacted with me. At graduation lunch he wanted to sit with me not her…and not daddy.
She didn’t bring a camera to the graduation, I brought mine and took pictures and video. I told her I would put all of that stuff on DVD for her and send it with daddy when he picks up Little jr. next time.
I guess I just want to help make this as smooth as possible. I don’t think she’s going to throw a fit, or cause problems, she’s not really that type of person. But I want to make her as comfortable with me as possible, and not be ‘threatening’ to her if you know what I mean.
I think I would like to get a printed copy of a picture I took of mom and Little jr. and get a little frame and send it down to her with daddy.
I know things will work out as they are supposed to, but I’d like to help them work out and not just ‘ride the wave’ so to speak. I’d appriciate any advice or words of wisdom that anyone would like to share with me.