So, tonight I feel like crap because I know I upset my dad horibbly. I’m his middle daughter, his little girl, and the one he has faith in to have a huge and successful career. Out of the family, him and I are the most alike…so we have formed a special bond over the years. I’m his little “pumpkin”.
Well, this past week my sister has had a few arguments with my parents. She and her fiance (they are getting married Sept 2008) are renting a townhouse together, so she is going to move in with him. All she does right now is basically sleep 6 hours at my parent’s house, and the rest of the time she is at her fiance’s. She called me crying the other night, explaing that she told my mom and dad that she was moving in with him. My dad refused to talk to her for awhile, but eventually told her she was making a mistake and was committing adultry. My sister called me and I told her that I support her decision to move in with her fiance and that I don’t see a problem with it at all.
Tonight, I called my mom to check and see if I had any mail at home, and she said that my dad wanted to talk to me. Once he got on the phone he started questioning about my sister. I explained to him that I don’t see anything wrong with her moving in with him and that we are living in a generation where it’s not that big of a deal. He kept saying that she might end up pregnant and I told him that she is doing nothing to put herself in that situation. Then he told me that he hopes that I’m not doing anything to put myself in any undesirable situation while I’m still in college. I said “okay dad”. He said, “oh does that mean that you are.” I told him no, but I know I have dissappointed for not sharing his opinion about this. He said he feels like he upset me and I told him he did a little bit, so we got off the phone.
He hasn’t called me back tonight. I feel like I should apologize for dissapointing him. I just wish he could understand that me and my sister have grown up, that my parents have raised us well, that we can make our own decisions, and that we won’t always agree with him.
Thanks for listening…I really just need to vent and get some outside feedback on the situation.