My 15 year old step son has been living with us for the last 2 years. He has become an integral part of our lives. He has been doing great in school, has a ton of friends, and even had a great girlfriend. When he came here, we told him, try it out for a year. If you want to go back to Idaho, great. If you want to stay, then that’s it. You stay until you graduate. He is in Idaho right now, and he wants to move back to Idaho. He says that he misses Idaho beyond belief, he wants to move back really bad, and he knows about the deal he made with us, but his sadness is overwhelming. So what do I do? Let him go back on his deal, leave us, but know that he is going to be happy, or make him stick to his deal, but know that he is going to be miserable. What kind of choice is that?
I talk to his mom on Friday, and she was really shocked. She told me and he told me too, that if he moved to Idaho again, then that would be it. Then I asked Wendy, what would you do if Scott said that he misses Oregon and wants to go back. She said “I would tell him too bad, so sad.” Why would my answer be any different?
The only caveat is that we don’t have legal custody, Wendy never did the paper work.