Mason…although I am loathe to generally offer…well…generalisations about genders and people…I have to admit I find that many men suffer dreadfully after a marriage break up. I know we hear a lot about one type of man vis First Wives Club etc (and there are a lot of them about) but I know men, like you, who are marvelous and who have SO much to offer but who drastically short change their lives because that first break up took such a horrid toll on them. When they think about another relationship they remember that and recoil; scared to death of going through it again.
As I said, it’s none of my business but there are ways to deal with these concerns and feelings and, putting yourself down Mason…well…its not the answer (if you don’t mind my saying so). Doing this excuses you from moving forward and is so very negative. Ok, we may have disagreed on one issue here but in the main I find you smart, witty, responsive. I’d like to see you believe in that and live it out rather than staying in a position of being down.
I used to often feel the way you do until a counselor told me I was being ridiculously self indulgent. Gosh that was a shock LOL It IS very hard to get over these feelings I know…but I reckon the past can only win if you let it.
Be good to yourself Mason and at least rejoice that this lovely lady has the capacity to regard you well.