I'm glad to hear that there are at least a few of us 'tension rebels' out there... who don't use the fingers to control the tension. :woot: Made me feel not so 'different'...
I will say though that... when I teach someone how to knit. I do show them 'several ways' to hold the yarn for 'tension' control... let them try them and I also show them my methold..
which, truthfully is the only way that I show children- when I'm teaching them to knit and then when they get the knit sitch process down and learned- I show them how to wrap the yarn around their fingers... it's just too much in the beginning for them and most of them knit too tight to even put the needle in ... if you start out w/ the yarn tension around the fingers... it's too much for them to manage at first (at the hundreds that I've taught how to knit anyway) I'm an art teacher, so I have showed many, many children how to knit.
*Ok, I show adults this way too- but, they can catch on to the knitting process steps faster (usually) and then go straight to learning how to hold the yarn. It helps so much to eliminate that 'death hold' on the knitting stitches... that are so tight that it is almost impossible to get the next row of stitches done easily.
I just tell them that there is NO ONE way to hold the yarn for tension... that instead that they have to find the method that works for them.