Thank you everyone, for your kind words of support, prayers, and positive thoughts.
Her husband insisted that I go through all of her yarn (and there was enough to open a small shop!) to pick out what I wanted to keep and set aside yarn to donate back to her favorite LYS.
I now have a lawn sized bag of yarn...enough to keep me busy for a couple of years, at least! I think I have 20-30 skeins of sock yarn. And her husband wants me to keep her Addi Turbo set in a beautiful leather case that was a gift to her. AND, I am instructed to continue to teach what Nancy taught me and pass it along. They also want me to have her swifter and ball roller.
All of that is so very generous and kind, but I felt rather like a scavenger. Oh, and she's like me. Can't find my needles? Let's just go buy more! HUNDREDS of dpns that I get to sort through and give to the friend I'm trying to teach.
As for the sweater...I'm moving to Long Beach CA and have found a beautiful shop at the Marina, where I can take it for any help I might need. I WILL finish that sweater for him.
Sorry for the babbling, but I'm sitting here with her and she's now progressed to nearly constant delirium. My friend is already gone at this point, we're just waiting for her body to catch up.
As she always said....it is what it is.