You'll probably get a better response later, because I'm not very experienced, but hey, it's Sunday afternoon and I'm not doing anything better, but:
Is it the way you are wrapping the yarn, I wonder? The videos on this website are very helpful. If you are doing English-style knitting (yarn in right hand), the yarn should be wrapped around the back of the right needle, right to left, and then to the front. If you are doing Continental (yarn in left hand), the needle should be moved behind the yarn from right to left. Sorry if this is confusing. The videos are better. And maybe this is not what you mean by "backwards," at all.