allegra, I'm sorry you've had a rough start. But, glad to see you plugging a way. The provisional cast on is really going to help you when you flip up your hem to knit on--you'll be able to see which stitch goes where.
I don't have any really great hints about the hem-since I'm a little lost with this hemming. I've done several swatches to try out the hem technique and what I discovered was that it isn't as clear as which stitches match. It's easy to skip a stitch are pick up an extra stitch .
so, I'm going to get a piece of scrap yarn and pull it through the bottom stitches (to make them more defined and hopefully easier to pick up in the right order (since you have done provisional --you've eliminated this problem) --it will be easy for you to match stitches up. It should be free sailing for you. YOu may want to mark every 20 or even 10 stitches. That way if you skip a stitch then you can just pick up 2 and be right on track. As long as you control the numbers evening them about every 10/20 you want have any problem with the hem twisting.
Boy, we'll be sailing along after this hem.
I'm loving my pima cotton by cascade---it is so soft, and really looks like denim. I have to figure out a way to get more--with my budget I have to be very creative--which sometimes means we eat pancakes, frech toast for dinner (what a horrible sacrifice!! I take the extra grocery money and get some yarn. My husband is a teacher/ as I am--but, right now I'm at home my son . With one teaching salary I have to be very creative with how to keep my "habit" going.