I've been cross stitching since January 1989...and I've made several pillows. Okay, how I did mine are a bit different than how you described what you're after..However, I'm not much of a seamstress..so, I never did figure out or get the hang of adding lace or other edgings to my pillows...Oh! And the patterns I used weren't antique,either...(Usually freebie promotional patterns/charts I picked up at my local needlework store... Or at one point, Hobby Lobby had a nice selection of DMC promotional free charts/patterns..- or a pattern I'd bought and had on hand.) Anyway, how I did mine was the following-
Do your cross stitching for the pillow...wash by hand, ring out until nearly dry..place between two fluffy white towels, and press your cross stitch piece. ( I don't know if anyone else did this,but, I've been known to wash mine with shampoo...- worked pretty good, if memory serves me..)
Get some fabric to match your cross stitch- I always favored calico's...( I never have sewn anything velvet...so, I won't be much help on that regard..) -Now, what you want to do with that fabric, now that you have it...is this...It would probably really help if you had a self healing mat board, straight edge ruler, and rotary cutter- you can find all these things at Wal Mart in the quilting section in near the fabric/crafts department...Hobby Lobby, Joann's...- somewhere like that...I wouldn't bother with going to a specialty quilting shop- you'd be looking at spending a lot more than necessary..)..Decide how wide you want your first strip to be- each one is going to be a little different in terms of legnth...but, width wise keep them the same...but, you could go wider..depending on what size and how wide you want your pillow..( What you're basically going to do with the first strip is make it exactly as long as which ever side you're going to apply the sashing to first...then take the second strip- it's always either going to be a little wider or longer- depending on which side you start..- and proceed like that around...- I always tend to sew mine as I go...so I can get accurate measurements...- yes, it does tend to take a little longer, but, always works out to be worth it in the long run!) Then, after you've got your pillow top made, then cut another peice of fabric to make the back- you want even, clean straight edges. Makes it A LOT easier to sew it together!
- Before you sew the back to the front...you should've already decided if you're going to use poly fil to stuff out your pillow, or if you're going to use a pre-made pillow form..( I pretty much always use poly fill for mine..) Anyway, once you've got the back to the front sewn (With right sides facing...clip the corners- but take care NOT to clip into your stitching/sewing...Now,turn it out. Clipping your corners helps make the corners of your pillow a lot more accentuated..- Really makes a difference!
- Now, turn it out...- when you take care of the corners, you'll see why clipping the excess makes such a difference!
- Stuff out your pillow...( For this part, if you like, you could add something scented, for a little extra something if you like...or just stuff it out with out the smell good...)
- Blind stitch your pillow closed...and, there you have it...
Oh, and by the way, you COULD sew it all together by hand, but, your fingers are going to be really sore, and tender...from the needle poking, unless you've got a good thimble..( I like the leather quilting ones...My fingers are SO little that I can't find a metal one to fit, so, I use the leather ones..) For hand sewing you're really better off using what's called " Betweens"...- But, it's really a lot easier and goes a lot quicker if you use a sewing machine, and use the standard 1/4" seam allowance when sewing your pillow...- at least that's what I've found to work rather well...
But, on the other hand, you might also want to check your local needlework shop...sometimes they'll offer sewing services...at least mine does..( They have someone that does the sewing for you,all you have to provide is the cross stitch and the fabric you want to use for the pillow...bell pull or christmas stocking..- Usually it's pretty reasonably priced...when I had some stuff done, I had three pillows and a bellpull done, and it cost me somewhere around $65...- but, that was eleven or twelve years ago..)
Hope this helps!