I haven't figured it out yet but some people like it. You might try the combination purl and wrap the yarn backwards. It was easier in some ways when I was first learning and the stitches are tighter. It twists the stitches so you knit in the back loop to untwist them on the next row. As you're determined to get it, I'm sure you will. Something will work. I'll keep trying to do purls English style. I share your frustration.
How you hold the yarn in your left hand can make a difference too. Try different ways of doing it.